ANGER ON MY MIND

I am back

Carlos R. Todd — Fri, 14 Jan 2011 04:16:13 +0000

Hello all,

After not posting for almost a year I am back. I have just concluded a grueling dissertation in conflict management (very few of these are written each year despite the pervasive use of conflict management). I am pleased with the end result but the work will have to continue. I will moving my blog post to CarlosTodd.com in the coming weeks. In the meantime I will be working on my new office space and getting ready to launch my new websites and services. It has been a tough year but I have accomplished my objective and am ready for the next steps. Stay tuned…

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Carlos R. Todd — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 14:22:50 +0000

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How to see change as my only option—what is at stake if I continue in my anger and conflict?

Carlos R. Todd — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 14:16:47 +0000

What happens if your idea goes over like a lead balloon? What happens if no one is interested in your idea? Do you continue to persist and for how long? While it is always good to be persistent, it is also good to understand when you have to throw in the towel. No one wins all of the time. It is impossible. When you see that you continue to run into a brick wall time and time again, it may be time for a change. It can be tough to give up on a dream. But many successful people have had many dreams that failed. Even successful corporations have hit upon some real clinkers. They did not give up and they did not continue pouring time, energy, effort and money into something that wasn’t working. Like most people, you have current problems and areas in your life that need improvement. How can you find out what needs to be changed so that you can improve these areas of your life.

You cannot get everyone to like you or agree with what you want. No one has that kind of power. And no matter what ideas you may have or how good they are, they will not be accepted by everyone. You cannot get everyone to agree with you no matter what you do. Sometimes, you just have to see that change is the only option. This works with conflict and strives as well as it does with bad ideas. If you continue to press and press, you will only anger yourself. And the angrier you get the more ineffective you become in your communication skills.

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Carlos R. Todd — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 20:30:45 +0000

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Building Communication Skills

Carlos R. Todd — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 20:25:42 +0000

The next time you are in a conversation with someone; do not try to take the reigns. Be very mindful of this throughout the conversation and allow the other person to direct the way that the conversation goes. After the conversation is over and you find that the world is still spinning on its axis, you will realize that you do not need to have control over every conversation and situation.

When you look for control in all communication, you are essentially telling the other person that you have no respect for their feelings or opinions and those things will be best if you just remain in charge. This negative communication affects everyone in a poor manner. If you continue to converse in this manner, you will find that people will not want to converse with you unless they have to. Your company may be sought out at work – if you are the boss, but for the most part, you will not be a very effective leader. You will probably also suffer from problems with all relationships.

Warning Sign to Avoid Conflict

Carlos R. Todd — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 01:31:49 +0000

Is there any time that you should avoid conflict? There are circumstances when you are better off to allow the conflict to diffuse itself, instead of trying to do this yourself. We all want to eliminate conflict in our lives or at least keep it to a minimum. No one likes conflict and most of us want to be better able to deal with the daily occurrences of conflict in our every day lives. But what happens when the conflict is so intense that is it not something that you can do anything about? There are some cases when you should wait until the storm blows over before you address the conflict.One warning sign that you should avoid the conflict is if the other person is violent or is exhibiting violent behavior. Someone who is this conflicted and angry needs help – but not yours. You cannot control everything that happens in life and situations where another person is violent.. In such a case, you are better off to step out of their way and allow them to calm down before you address the conflict.

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Carlos R. Todd — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 14:39:11 +0000

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Resolving Conflict By Means of Respect

Carlos R. Todd — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 14:22:26 +0000

It is often said that a person with manners never lets another person feel bad about themselves. Everyone deserves respect, yet some people are under the misconception that others deserve it more. The person who is sweeping up the street is a human being who deserves the same respect as the president of the United States, but he is not going to get it, despite the fact that both men, as they say, put their pants on in the same way. Both are mortal and neither can escape death. The impact that the president has on others is apparent. The impact the street sweeper has is not apparent, but is still there. Each person’s life has value and impacts other’s lives. Everyone deserves respect.

Often, when we have a conflict with another individual, we will be tempted to try to diminish their sense of self worth by showing them little or no respect. Do you think that this is a healthy way to resolve conflict?

One of the first things you want to do when you find yourself involved in a conflict with another individual is to acknowledge the fact that this other individual is a real life human being and deserves respect. Think about the times when you felt that you were not shown proper respect from others. How did it make you feel? Would you be more inclined to resolve an issue with someone who showed you respect or someone who treated you with disdain?

Naturally you would be more inclined to want to resolve an issue with someone who treated you with respect. Anyone would say this. But how do we resolve a conflict, make sure that our needs are met and still show respect to another individual?

Whether you are in a business environment or personal situation, showing respect towards other people is crucial if you are to have good communication skills, be able to resolve conflict and be emotionally competent.

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Carlos R. Todd — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:08:12 +0000

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Why others fail to change—how you will succeed

Carlos R. Todd — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 00:00:20 +0000

Not everyone is willing to change. Take the example of Michael who still languishes at the law office where he hopes to be a partner. Many people resist change for a variety of reasons. The number one reason why people refuse to change is that they are afraid of the unknown.
Another reason why people refuse to change is that they do not want to step out of their comfort zone. Even if their way is not working and they express being dissatisfied, they will still resist change. This is why people end up failing. And why you will succeed. If you are willing to change and find better ways to do things, you can also help motivate

You cannot expect people to change their way of doing things overnight. If you have ever worked in a business where someone new came in and took over and tried to institute change right away, you understand that sort of frustration. After all, you are getting along fine, you feel comfortable with your job and all of the sudden someone comes along and wants to change the way that you do everything. It can be scary and threatening others to change as well.

While you may become more resilient and willing to change in your quest to grow, others around you may not be so willing to change. Yet if they work with you or for you or are living in your house, you have to motivate them to change. You cannot do this all of a sudden. You have to do it in small steps.