ANGER ON MY MIND

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If your have in ongoing conflict in your relationship please view the video below to see a new alternative. Help is on the way.

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions with two locations in Charlotte, NC
http://www.masteringanger.com
http://www.angeronmymind.com
http://www.aaamp.org

Todd’s Anger Management Solutions have launched four new videos for  executive  coachingmandated anger management, couples anger management and organizational training. This move  is designed to provide our clients with  a quick way to learn more about our anger management classes. Click here to view

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com

www.aaamp.org

 

 

  • There is no medicine involved in treatment.

  • Anger is a secondary emotion.
  • Anger management is not covered by insurance.

  • Anger management providers should have certification.

  • Emotional intelligence is an important component of the classes.

  • Inappropriate expressions of anger are often learned from family members.

  • Anger management is not counseling, but a skill building class.

  • Many licensed counselors are not trained to provide anger management.

  • Anger management problems can lead to health problems.

  • There is an association of anger management providers www.aaamp.org.

  • Psychiatrist are not always trained in anger management.

  • Anger is a normal emotion. It just must be managed.

  • Unmet needs are often at the core of anger management problems.

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com

www.aaamp.org

 

1. An assessment is completed showing the deficits that promote ongoing conflict

2. Clearly focused and time limited interventions

3. Structured and tested intervention tools

4. Skill building process is non-threatening to men

5. Simple easy to understand workbook is provided that the couple can use to practice conflict resolution skills outside of session.

6. Couples learn skills in emotional intelligence, stress management, communication skills and anger management

7. Session are completed in a relatively short period of time

8. The exclusion of insurance promotes a higher level of confidentiality

9. Role playing in sessions promotes skill building

10. Motivated couples tend to learn skills faster and report less frustration when the process is compared to talk therapy

To find a certified anger management provider in your area visit www.anger-managemet-resources.org

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com

www.aaamp.org

 

 

There can be no mistake that Anderson and Anderson has the largest network of certified anger management facilitators. In almost every state in the U.S.A and in many other countries of the world someone has been trained in this model. When one thinks anger management one must think Anderson and Anderson and its vast network of providers.

For a provider in your area visit www.anger-management-resources.org

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

www.masteringanger.com

Licensed mental health clinicians including psychologists, clinical social workers and licensed professional counselors are all familiar with and are trained to perform assessments. The most common may be the psychosocial assessment. This assessment takes a global look at the individual’s history as well as current symptoms to come up with a mental health diagnosis.

Anger has not yet been categorized by the American Psychiatric Association as a mental health disorder, therefore in the process of having a mental health assessment one cannot be diagnosed as having “anger” as one is diagnosed as having bipolar or depression. Unlike a mental health diagnosis anger is considered a normal human emotion which only becomes a problem if it is too long lasting, too severe and too frequent.

An anger management assessment seeks to determine not the roots of the anger as with a psychosocial assessment, but the deficiencies that come together to create problematic anger. The assessment that I am most familiar with is called the anger management map or the Conover Assessment. This is a research validated assessment that is either done on computer or on paper. It provides information on an individual’s assertiveness skills, motivation to change, stress management skills, empathy, level or potential of interpersonal aggression and the ability to set boundaries and think independently of others. When an individual completes the test it prints out a graphical illustration of the results as well as several pages of interpretation. This information is used as a baseline to begin an anger management program.

I have found that clients are impressed with the graphical display of the core issues that drive their anger and often use the assessment as a conversation piece to share their struggles with spouses, sibling and parents. The assessment also can be used in each session to keep the client focused on the goals of treatment. At the end of the anger management course the assessment can be retaken to determine if any progress has been made.

The anger management assessment has special significance for couples who struggle with constant conflict. Each time I give this assessment to a couple the results are startling. The test reveals that as it relates to anger management, they are polar opposites. When one is very empathetic the other is not — when one is assertive the other is not — when one is good at managing stress the other is not. When I show both the husband and wife the results of the assessment it tends to really make sense to them.  In a visual format they see how their differences can be at the foundation of their conflicts. The couple can then begin the work of learning skills to state needs and communicate in ways that significantly reduce the anger.

The anger management assessment is appropriate for anyone who has to take an anger management class. It is also helpful for employers who want to assess the potential of an prospective employee to cause interpersonal conflict at work or whose anger will get in the way of their work. It has been noted most individuals who lose their jobs do not do so because they are incompetent; they do so because they have trouble getting along with peers. Human resource professionals can therefore benefit from having a certified anger management facilitator conduct an anger management assessment. In the long run it can save time, money, and the headache of hiring a potentiality disruptive employee. For a certified anger management facilitator in your area please visit www.anger-management-resources.org . To reach Carlos Todd directly please call 704-804-0841 or email him at todds@masteringanger.com

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com

One should never assume that because an individual is quiet and unassuming anger is not boiling inside. Too often, there have been examples of individuals who appeared to be quiet and unaware and one day they just exploded in rage. There are two types of anger–implosive and explosive. Explosive anger is familiar however implosive anger is less observable. It is what I describe as stealth anger. It roams inside the individual with no way of healthy expression.

Anger and the primary emotions that drive anger are only signals to let us know that we are under emotional attack. To ignore these signals is to stuff the feelings that we have daily when others cross an unacceptable emotional boundary. Individuals with explosive anger tend to be passive or passive aggressive communicators who are either are not able to say “no” or tend to communicate with excessive sarcasm.

In this case, anger management is important because it teaches the individual to express their needs, wants, desires and set the kind of boundaries that allow them to emotional differentiate themselves from others. The good anger manager knows when and how to express anger. They do not express anger just for the sake of freeing themselves. This expression is smart because it is done in the full awareness of the individual’s emotional needs and the overall desire to respect the rights and emotional needs of others.

If you find yourself not being able to say “no” or not able to express what you really want an anger management class may be appropriate for you. Don’t let stealth anger destroy your life seek help today. For an anger management provider in your area visit www.anger-management-resources.org

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, North Carolina

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com


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