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Dealing with the Anger of 9-11

The images from September 11, 2001 are forever burned in the minds most Americans.

But the anger many of us felt that day is an emotion that some folks battle on a consistent basis?

WBTV’s Lenise Ligon has the story.

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People get pretty angry for a lot reasons. Traffic jams, a bad day at the office, arguments over the kids and the the brutal terrorist attacks from 9/11.

After 9/11, referrals to anger management just really spiked.

It has been six years since our nation was attacked. That day our world changed forever.

Carlos Todd, of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions, says it has been especially different in his line of work as an anger management consultant.

“The reason is that stress levels get higher people get more fearful and it causes us to be uncertain,” he said.

He says you can get your anger under control three different ways: fight, flight or freeze.

Fight — look for a constructive solution.

Flight — walk away.

Or Freeze — take a step back.

After 9/11 we wanted to fight, not physically though, we went looking for answers.

But remember terrorism is not always the root cause of anger.

Todd says anger is a secondary emotion and in this case could be avoided.

“If it is too severe. If it leads to violence. All of these things are indicators that an individual has problems managing their anger.”

Who could forget the message of actor Alec Baldwin yelling at his 11-year-old daughter.

Todd says when it comes to managing your anger, sometimes the best thing to do is take a step back and think — freeze.

It is easy to say, but learning how means more than just keeping a lid on your temper.

“It is a course,” Todd explains, “it is a class, designed to teach people stress management, anger management, communications skills and emotional intelligence.”

He says he can show you the techniques, but the success depends on you.

Motivation is a real strong part of this process.

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com

www.aaamp.org

 

There is no doubt that anger management is a new but very misunderstood service. As a matter of fact the media has done more to teach the public about anger management than professional anger management providers. This has had negative consequences. It has led the public to believe that anger management is only for those who have explosive tempers. This pervasive public perception has cause those who struggle with everyday issue with anger to avoid the anger management provider because they believe that they will have to sit with “thugs and criminals” in a class. This perception is so much further from the truth.

Luckily the media blitz by Anderson and Anderson, The Anger Management Institute of Texas, Executive and Life Coaching Inc, SB Consulting, Daybreak Services and my organization Todd’s Anger management Solutions is causing a shift in public perception. In addition to those who have been mandated by the court we are now seeing clients from all walks of life who want to deal with their anger in a safe, confidential, and private setting by credible and trained professionals. More encouraging is that theses individuals are returning again and again after the assessment to be seen to address their anger management problems. They are aware that anger can affect their health, productivity, social and work relationships and future prosperity. The fact that these individuals return also suggest that it is worth their time and money to work along with a certified anger management facilitator.

A recent trend is also emerging where the perceived usefulness of anger management has been expanding to couples, executives, public officials, police officers, nurses and organization training. This expansion is another example versatility of globally recognized Anderson and Anderson anger management model.

We as a community of anger management providers welcome these trends and will continue to do all we can to share with the public the development of credible anger management services across the country.

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com

www.aaamp.org

 

I receive a number of calls every day inquiring about anger management. I always take the time to talk to the individual on the other line. During the conversation I always give an introduction to anger management. I tell the caller it’s a class– not counseling– then I ask them in the course of our conversation ask a rhetorical question–Which family member did you learn your angry response from? This question takes the assumption that anger is learned. Some may say that I am bold to ask such a question but the reality is that I have not never been wrong with this presumptuous question.

This is the very reason that anger management is considered a class. In it we teach skills to unlearn what was previously taught.If you struggle with anger I ask you–Which family member did you learn poor anger management from?

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com

www.aaamp.org

As an anger management provider I often wonder about the process by which individuals decide to pick up the phone and decide to call me or any of those in our network of providers. The biggest concern may be that of credibility. The consumer should be aware that many of the providers across the country are part of a nationwide network and are trained in the globally acclaimed Anderson and Anderson model. So if you are looking for a credible provider of anger management  visit  www.aaamp.org, http://www.andersonservices.com/providersus.html, www.anger-management-resources.org.

I can only imagine how difficult that first call maybe. Take the step to improving your life and contact you local anger management provider today.

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC

www.masteringanger.com

www.angeronmymind.com

www.aaamp.org

 

 

If your have in ongoing conflict in your relationship please view the video below to see a new alternative. Help is on the way.

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions with two locations in Charlotte, NC
http://www.masteringanger.com
http://www.angeronmymind.com
http://www.aaamp.org


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