ANGER ON MY MIND

I feel invisible

Posted on: May 5, 2007

“I feel invisible”

An emotional intelligence vocabulary can be a powerful tool for growth in the management of anger. In the past I have referenced the idea that anger is a secondary emotion. This idea is at the core of the world renowned Anderson and
Anderson anger management model. Anger according to the model is always driven by another emotion or set of emotions that the individual is may not be aware of.

This principle was demonstrated by one of my male clients who had been referred because of road rage. As we discussed the possible emotions that filled him as he developed into a “road rager” he described that he was feeling INVISIBLE. I was floored when I heard this. It was a powerful expression of how he felt. It described a deeper feeling of being disrespected, ignored, cast aside and taken for granted. Eventually theses emotions fueled his rage and would become an aggressive driver. The day he was able to name his emotions, he took more responsibility for himself and learned new skills to manage his anger.

The emotional vocabulary remains a powerful tool in the arsenal of anyone learning anger management. For a provider in your area who will teach the role of emotional intelligence in the anger management please visit www.anger-management-resources.org. . Stay tuned for more on the emotional vocabulary…

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF

www.angerhurts.com

www.angeronmymind.com

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