Emotional vocabulary words Pt 3
Posted June 21, 2007on:
In this article I wanted to look at a few feeling words that seem similar-feeling detached, distant, separate and disconnected. It is very important to recognize if we are in this place. Feeling disconnected has implications for how we related to others. If we are not connected we may lack a sense of how our actions impact others and enviably miss the cues that our actions are not being viewed as positive. Soon conflict and anger can be directed at us because others view is as hostile.
For example a person who is having difficulty at work but cannot for many reason leave his job may become numb and disconnected just to make it through the day. His co-works may notice changes in his body language and his facial expressions or even a slight anger in his voice. As a result they become defensive and cautious around him and soon interpersonal conflict develops. If this employee was able to perceive, identify and name(PIN) his emotions he would have had a starting place to take action to avoid at the very least, conflict with his co-workers, letting them know that what he was expressing was not about them. Without this awareness he created the impression that his feeling of disconnection were related to anger at them.
Awareness and the development of an emotional vocabulary are key to emotional intelligence and hence anger management. Stay tuned from more on this topic.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC