Your strength may be a sign of weakness
Posted November 11, 2007on:
I have observed that many individuals who are the loudest, most controlling and most aggressive are often broken individuals who hide their pain by seeking to exercise control over others. This level of anger is a failed attempt to manage their own anxiety by usurping control over others. The more common manifestation of this is the individual who has to say, “I control things in this house” or “I am the boss in here.” The mere fact that it has to said indicates that individual has no control and senses their vulnerability.
Improving anger management is about taking control over your own life. It is about seeing that anger is a signal that some need of ours is not met. We therefore use this signal to take responsibility for our own lives and seek to meet our own needs.
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Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina