Who said anger was bad?
Posted December 5, 2007on:
What if it was just a big misunderstanding? What if anger was really a important emotion in the development of the self? What if anger could be use effectively to set boundaries? What if… I content that the understanding that many have about anger is very much off track. We need anger. Anger is a good an necessary emotion. Anger is part of the minds way of seeking it place in the world. From very young we begin to realize who we are and when this is challenged anger is our way of setting boundaries. If is our way of saying, “This is who I am and I am not sure that I am willing to integrate our values, beliefs or ideas.” Anger ensures that we are individuals separate and distinct from the rest of the world.
However in the same way that we can have too much of any emotion, when anger that is too frequent, too severe, too long lasting and leading to aggression it has essentially gone bad. Learning to effectively use our anger is a skill that can give us peace of mind in knowing that we have maintained who we are with integrity and have not violated the rights of others in the process. It is a fine line that we all will need to learn to walk.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina