Conflict–What Is It? The Importance of Conflict Resolution Techniques

Posted on: June 16, 2009

Conflict will occur when you do not have respect for the other feelings of another individual or when they do not have respect for you. You can try to deflect conflict by using positive communication skills as discussed in this book. You will know when you are in conflict as it will consist of unproductive, negative communication. If conflict can be briefly defined – that is the perfect definition. While there is good conflict, negative conflict is defined by negative communication. If it continues, it can keep on escalating. Not too many people are happy when they are embroiled in a conflict. While some seem to thrive on drama, they are usually very unhappy people who suffer from an inferiority complex and need to be the center of attention. For the most part, people try to avoid conflict. How do you identify and resolve conflict? For an exercise, try to think of the last time you experienced conflict in your life. It can be something trivial or a major conflict at work or home. Do you remember the events that led up to the conflict? Could you have stopped the conflict before it escalated? How long did the conflict continue? How did you feel while you were experiencing the conflict? Did you feel helpless and want it to end, or did it make you feel energized? How did the conflict end? Was it a positive ending? Who made the first move to end the conflict or was this accomplished by a mediator? Try to imagine yourself in a conflict with a friend, significant other or colleague. Do you see any
situation in the near future where you may have some sort of conflict? Are the warning signs there? Can you think of how you would like the conflict to end? Do you know of any techniques that you can use to diffuse the conflict? How do you think these will work? Whenever there is a storm brewing, it is often human nature to go somewhere safe and wait it out. A conflict is like a storm, but instead of hiding out, you are better off to prepare for the storm

Conflict—what is it—Conflict resolution techniques

It is important for everyone to have conflict resolution techniques. Conflict is sometimes needed to clear the air. As much as you try, you will not be able to avoid every situation that involves conflict. But you can try to resolve conflict without it causing too much damage. Conflict takes its toll on us both mentally and physically.


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By: Mike (Ali) Raccoon Eyes Kinney

As a Cherokee Native American Activist and a former member of the Richmond California Violence Prevention Movement, I have seen close to 515 homicides in the City of Richmond from 2001 to the present.

The declaration of a ‘war on violence’ by the Richmond city government was not the panacea, instead it failed miserably.
I have often stated in town hall meetings and on television, the best way to win the ‘war on violence’ in Richmond is to ‘TEACH THE VALUES OF PEACE’.
In the killing fields of Richmond, most of the victims of homicides are youth or young adults. Teaching the values of peace begins with our youth and young adults. From a Native perspective, winning the war on violence begins in the home with a strong, spiritual belief and value system.
We believe that Creator made all generations, past, present and those of the future, holy people. This is what our Elders teach us from the time we are born.
Our families and Elders teach our young people that they must tear away the images and stereotypes that mainstream society has placed upon them as Native peoples.
Violence and killing is not traditional in Native culture, it is a learned behavior from mainstream society.
We teach our youths not to attack, punish or beat themselves up for crimes that they have never committed in regards to racism. Our Elders and families teach our young people to have good self-esteem, self-worth and self-value, for as the original holy people this was Creators plan.
Native people know that it is both family and community responsibility to teach the values of peace to our young people.
We teach our young people honesty and accountability concerning violence. It begins with accepting responsibility for self and acknowledging any past use of violence. Admitting any wrongdoing, communicating openly and truthfully to renounce the use of violence in the future places our youth on the right path. We place a heavy emphasis that all life is sacred.
The final lesson in teaching the values of peace is quite simple. It is helping young people understand their relationship to others and all things in Creation.
Be responsible for your role, act with compassion and respect, and remember ALL LIFE IS SACRED. Native culture is prevention!

Mike (Ali) Raccoon Eyes Kinney

One of the problems with conflict is the fact that too many people either:
(1) avoid conflict, allowing it to fester; or
(2) handle it inappropriately.

Today, I wrote on eight techniques that have been helpful when I help my employees overcome conflict that may be detrimental to interpersonal relationships. Check it out and let me know what you think.

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