Archive for July 2009
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How many times have you done or said the following:
-Ignored a conflict that you had with a colleague only to take it out on a subordinate?
-Did something that you really didn’t want to do because you didn’t want to make someone else mad?
-Told off an innocent clerk in a store because you were really angry at someone or something else?
-Avoided telling someone that you didn’t want to see them anymore because you were afraid of their reaction and how it would affect you?
-Had thoughts of revenge against a customer who treated you badly?
-Had to listen to a customer who was abusive in an effort to keep your job?
-Been abusive to a spouse or family member, either verbally or physically, because you were angry at something else?
-Went along with a plan that you didn’t like just to avoid conflict and then felt resentful the entire time?
-Ran away from conflict by burying yourself in work or just ignoring the facts?
-Lied about there being “nothing wrong” just because you don’t want to take the trouble to examine the conflict?
-Been fired from a job for losing your temper?
-Had an argument with a colleague that resulted in getting a reprimand or worse?
-Was told you were too angry and unreasonable to talk to?
-Was told that you were too passive and should get angry?
If you have said yes to any of the above, if any of them strike a chord with you, then you can use
conflict coaching. Conflict coaching will enable you to deal with conflicts that come up in your life in an emotionally mature way. Conflict coaching teaches you how to deal with conflict right then, when it happens, as you
should. Once you realize that you can learn this concept, you will feel more in control of your own life and your destiny.
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1. Think about your last conflict. How did you handle it?
2. How could you have handled it better?
3. Think of someone who you admire and how they handle conflict. What would they have done?
4. What is the first step that you need to take to improve your conflict style?.
5. Realize that your values and beliefs have validity but that they are not the only values
and opinions in the world. That other people have different core beliefs and values.
6. Set a goal on examining your next conflict. If you fly off the handle easily, be aware of
that and behave just the opposite. You may walk away to keep yourself from screaming at someone.
7. If you are passive or passive aggressive, recognize that you have to begin to voice your opinions and that you have the right to do so.
Posted July 14, 2009on:
What happens if your idea goes over like a lead balloon? What happens if no one is interested
in your idea? Do you continue to persist and for how long?
While it is always good to be persistent, it is also good to understand when you have to throw in
the towel. No one wins all of the time. It is impossible. When you see that you continue to run
into a brick wall time and time again, it may be time for a change.
It can be tough to give up on a dream. But many successful people have had many dreams that
failed. Even successful corporations have hit upon some real clinkers. They did not give up
and they did not continue pouring time, energy, effort and money into something that wasn’t working.
Sometimes, you just have to see that change is the only option. This works with conflict and
strives as well as it does with bad ideas. If you continue to press and press, you will only anger
yourself. And the angrier you get the more ineffective you become in your communication skills.
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