Tools To Build Assertiveness
Posted September 16, 2009on:
1. Learn how to say “no” without apologizing. If someone is pressing you to do somethingthat you don’t want to do, it is okay to say “no.” If you say “yes” when you mean no, thenyou are going to end up disliking yourself and resenting the person to whom you said yes.
2. Learn not to criticize. Use more positive communication skills such as praise instead of criticism. Avoid the words “you never” and “you always” as they are detrimental.
3. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. Remember that no one can argue withyou about the way that you feel and that you are entitled to your own feelings.
4. Speak up for yourself. If something bothers you, do not hide it. Be free to discuss your feelings.
5. If you feel that you are acting too aggressive or too demanding, do not beat yourself over it. Just try to do better the next time.