Archive for April 2008
Some individuals are convinced that their way is the best way. They tend to angrily force (this can and is often done in very subtle ways-gestures, facial expressions) others to do things their way while neglecting the fact that others have opinions that need to be respected. This tendency represents poor emotional intelligence and a lack of communication skills. Therefore a key component of any credible anger management program is teaching emotional intelligence and communication skills.
A major part of what is done in our anger management class is to teach the participant how to avoid the center of the world syndrome. If you have the center of the world syndrome you may need an anger management class. For a anger management provider in your area visits www.masteringanger.com
I have been observing an interesting trend. In the last month I have seen many men who in order to save their marriage came to an anger management class. Initially some came just to appease their wives but for the most part these men displayed a genuine interest in changing their habits. Some struggled with cultural norms that seem to have driven them to having domineering perceptions of women, others struggled with being passive or explosive and yet others sought to build better communication skills and empathy to improve their interaction with their spouse. What note is worthy is that by the end of the class the resistance to change often goes away.
Please note that we do not provide domestic violence interventions. DV interventions are distinct to anger management and should not be confused. Anger management is about managing a very normal emotion however DV related to power and control in intimate relationships and require other specialized interventions.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
In the battle to manage anger George Anderson was exact in his assessment that learning communcation skills in key. Over and over again I see my clients struggle to transform their language in a way that averts conflict. A turning point for many is when they begin to realize that words are only an attempt to communicate. No longer are words taken as a signal to fight but instead the listener listens with his heart and hears the full communcation of the other person. This includes body language, facial expressions and tonal inflections. The listener then hears the underline emotions that are driving the words and may be less likely to respond on impulse but thoughtfully.
There is a tendency to take words as the “final word” however so often we miscommunicate as we attempt to express our ideas or concerns. Comprehensive anger management teaches the individual communication and emotional intelligence to improve that individual’s ability to both speak respectfully and listen with his heart. To learn more visit www.masteringanger.com
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina
The east coast premier provider of anger management services
In the last two months Todd’s Anger Management Solutions(TAMS), PLLC has been experiencing tremendous growth. Our client base now includes companies, multi-national executives, doctors, salespersons and as always we continue to cater to the needs of individuals and families who struggle with anger and conflict. In response to this growth, and the need to be well positioned for the future, our company will begin to transform its image to further cater to the needs of its growing client base. In the next month Todd’s Anger Management Solutions, PLLC will be reintroduced as Conflict Coaching and Consulting, LLC and will be adding an array of services including anger management, conflict resolution and conflict coaching. Our web domain will remain www.masteringanger.com however, we will be introducing a newly designed website that will be simple and concise. Other developments are in the works including Carlos Todd being featured in a nationwide publication in June. So stay tuned…
I want to thank all those who have trusted Todd’s Anger Management Solutions and we look forward to serving you as Conflict Coaching and Consulting, LLC
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
Anger Management/Conflict Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina
The east coast premier provider of anger management services
Does anger management work?
Posted on: April 12, 2008
That depends purely on the individual. A well trained anger management facilitator will teach all the skills necessary that allows the individual to make changes in their lives. However experience tells me that motivation and a commitment to change is key to any long term success. This is not to say that there are not snake oil anger management providers out there who fail to deliver the information needed to truly understand anger–this does happen. What I am trying to emphasize is that if one is motivated to change and the skills are provided change is not only possible but likely. So instead of asking if anger management works one could ask–Am I ready to change?
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
Anger Management/Individual Coaching in Charlotte, North Carolina
The east coast premier provider of anger management services
ANGER ON MY MIND 
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