Archive for January 2008
Lower levels of emotional intelligence may be a prime factor in driving anger
Posted on: January 29, 2008
The longer I practice as an anger coach the more I see trends that help me to understand some of the cause of chronic anger. One unmistakable trend is that the lower the level of emotional intelligence higher the likelihood that that individual will have challenges with chronic anger. One of the reasons maybe linked to the fact that lacking emotional intelligence tends to cause an individual to miss cues about how they feel or how others feel. Essentially there is a continual interaction with the world that does not assess any of the emotional content (tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, and feelings) that surrounds the individual. The result is often interactions that are conflict riddled.
Be warned that I am not suggesting that we all go around asking how each other feels. Instead I am suggesting that one develop emotional intelligence—hire a coach even. Contrary to what some may believe developing emotional intelligence skills is very possible. Learning a few skill can avert crisis and give you a new perspective on life. My experience tells me that it can save your marriage, job, important relationships and even enhance current relationships.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
704-804-0841
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina
The east coast premier provider of anger management services
I need anger management
Posted on: January 23, 2008
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Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
Anger Management/Performance improvement of Charlotte, North Carolina
The east coast premier provider of anger management services
Anger management is increasingly becoming one of the most sought after interventions worldwide. Anderson & Anderson receives requests daily from Human Resource Managers, Organizational Development Specialists, Employee Assistance Professionals as well as University Dean of Students requesting referral resources for their client populations.As cut backs and downsizing occur in an environment of terrorist fears, employees, faculties and students are responding with fear, anxiety, depression and anger. These feelings often lead to tension in the workplace, home or educational environment. For businesses, the concern over workplace violence, sick day usage, work performance, liability, and productivity has caused a heightened sensitivity of the need to seek solutions. Voluntary and mandatory anger management as well as executive coaching is rapidly becoming the intervention of choice.
In colleges and Universities, there is an increase in tensions between students and faculty, faculty and faculty as well as between students. Traditional counseling and psychotherapy is expensive, time consuming and ineffective. Since anger is not a psychiatric disorder, psychotherapy is inappropriate and has simply not worked. Consequently, major universities are routinely making referrals to Anderson & Anderson® providers nationwide.
Another major source of requests for training and material is the Criminal Justice system. Probation departments, courts, jails and prisons are using anger management to teach skills in managing aggression and violence. The Canadian Bureau of Prisons has demonstrated in fifteen years of study that incarcerated defendants who are taught how to manage stress and anger using a cognitive behavior approach with client workbook show an 83% success rate. These skills are maintained when defendants are returned to their home communities. This longitudinal study reinforces the effectiveness of anger management.
The California State Board of Corrections has approved the Anderson & Anderson® curricula, training and client workbooks for use in jails, prisons as well as parole and probation departments in Bermuda, Cayman Islands, California. Arizona, Texas, Kansas and Nevada have also adopted this curriculum for use in its Corrections Departments.
Be Oltra, Next Generation is the Anderson & Anderson affiliate in Italy. Be Oltra provided Italian language dubbing for the Sony movie, Anger Management. In addition, they are offering anger management to Universities, prisons and businesses in Italy with considerable success.
Anger Management providers who are trained in the Anderson & Anderson® model and actually use the client workbooks can reasonably expect to receive referrals. Our internet marketing and domination of the anger management field provides credibility and branding to our providers and affiliates.
Currently, we are negotiating with a major Canadian based ITT Corporation with affiliates in 52 countries. This organization is interested in providing the Anderson & Anderson® model of intervention to its client companies worldwide. Naturally this will further enhance the number of referrals for all of our providers. With our increasing prominence, it is necessary for us to make certain that providers on our list are actually presenting our model as designed. Beginning, in February, we will begin contacting each provider who has not recently purchased our client workbooks. Providers who are not using our workbooks will be removed from our provider list. This is necessary to protect the credibility of this model.
By George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP http://www.andersonservices.com
By Gregory Kyles, LPC, CEAP, CAMF
It’s a well established theory anger is a secondary emotion; we usually experience emotions such as frustration, disappointment, and jealousy right before one become angry.
These emotions are generally based on some form of un-met need and/or a value one perceives to have been violated.
Most people seldom realize these primary emotions due to their low level of emotional self-awareness. Understanding emotional self-awareness, one of the five principals of emotional intelligence is essential in mastering anger control and fear control skills
According to Dr. Scott Williams, understanding your own feelings, what causes them, and how they impact your thoughts and actions is emotional self-awareness. If you were once excited about your job but not excited now, can you get excited again? To answer that question, it helps to understand the internal processes associated with getting excited. That sounds simpler than it is. Here’s an analogy: I think I know how my car starts–I put gas in the tank, put the key in the ignition, and turn the key. But, my mechanic knows a lot more about what’s involved in getting my car started than I do–he knows what happens under the hood. My mechanic is able to start my car on the occasions when I’m not because he understands the internal processes. Similarly, a person with high emotional self-awareness understands the internal process associated with emotional experiences and, therefore, has greater control over them.
The Anger Management Institute of Texas utilizes the Anderson & Anderson ® curriculum; the workbooks contain exercises focusing on enhancing emotional intelligence, improving assertive communication, as well as behavior strategies for recognizing, dealing with, and managing anger and stress.
For additional information please call 281-477-9105 or visit our website http://www.ami-tx.com .
I must admit that I am an avid watcher of the discovery channel. In recent times I have observed how well animal learn to adapt to their ever changing environment. Some of these adaptations happen quickly and some over time—the point is that they happen.
Human are highly adaptable as a species also. However, as individuals some of us tend to seek the safely of the family, even when it has the propensity to destroy us. Emotionally intelligent individuals are different. They have the skills to experience their own emotions and the emotions of others. It is this very fact that allows them to make decision that are adaptive and foster not only survival but thriving.
We cannot ignore part of us that helps us understand what we need—to do this is to our own determent. Instead I encourage that we build an emotional vocabulary, clarify an understanding of our own emotions and use this information meet our needs in ways that help us to adapt to ever changing wind of life—believe it or not this is an important component of anger management.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina
The east coast premier provider of anger management services
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