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103 free anger management tips
Posted on: November 30, 2007
- Exercise
- Read a book
- Breathe deeply
- Talk with a friend
- Transferring the situation from negative to positive by self talk
- HALT find out if you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired
- Take a long bubble bath
- Have a sexual encounter to release your endorphins
- Take a walk in the park
- Talk about the issue at hand
- Have a good cry
- Write down the pros and cons about how to deal with the situation
- Walk away
- Go to a 24 hour establishment and sit in the parking lot and review the situation
- Remove yourself from the situation
- Go shopping
- Go out to dinner with friends
- Paint your nails
- Work on a project in your garage
- Spend time with someone that is dear to you
- Do something special for someone else and keep it to yourself
- Use paint to create how you feel on paper
- Clean your home
- Mow your lawn
- Write a story about the situation
- Listen to your favorite song
- Take a long drive through a very scenic area
- Go sit by a body of water and calm down
- Talk about what you are angry about
- Identify other emotions that you are truly feeling
- Ask yourself what is the real reason you are angry
- Go to the spa
- Seek professional help
- Learn to laugh
- Watch a comedy
- Dance
- Go to a night club and have fun
- evaluate all of your current relationships
- evaluate how people in your life addressed anger when you were a child
- Find out what are appropriate and inappropriate ways to express anger
- Play your favorite sport
- Forgive the person you are angry with
- Practice self talk to calm down
- Replay in your head the positive way to deal with the situation in which you are angry
- Prepare one of your favorite meals
- Talk on the phone with someone to help you calm down
- Compose a story regarding the situation and develop two endings one that discusses what happens if you follow thru with your anger and one that explains what happens when you express your anger appropriately
- Find a place that is special to only you and go there to think
- Smile, the more you smile, the more difficult it is to stay angry
- Have a massage in your home
- Scream as loud as you can, then regroup
- Prayer
- Live your dreams
- Count to ten
- Anger is a secondary emotions—always find our what is driving your anger
- Be always aware of your emotional state
- Check your perception of the situation
- Angry thinking creates anger-transform your thoughts
- Anger is a normal emotion-embrace it
- Never follow another driver in anger
- Never listen to your angry self talk
- Be aware of your emotional state
- Take breaks
- Avoid fatigue
- Take responsibility for your own actions
- Avoid the tendency to be always right
- Go for a long drive
- Go for a long walk
- Reduce stress
- Lower your expectations
- Mediate
- Walk away— repeated because this very important but hard to do.
- Avoid excessive use of alcohol
- Talk out your problems
- Be prepared for life’s surprises
- Learn to laugh at yourself
- Go to anger management classes
- Visit www.anger-management-resources.org
- Visit www.masteringanger.com
- Improve your time management
- Avoid people that tend to increase your irritability
- Learn to communicate your needs
- Avoid passive aggressive behavior
- Improve money management
- You never have the right to hit someone—Never
- Get adequate sleep
- Behave at sporting events the same way you want your children to behave
- Stay clear of angry people
- Recognize that what you value or believe others may not
- Don’t procrastinate
- Be organized
- Don’t assume that because you said it other will do it—you are not the center of the universe
- Know your pet peeves
- Be open to the opinions of others
- Avoid excessive overtime
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- Take time for yourself
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- Compromise
- Remember that your needs are not always the most important
- Play your favorite sport
- Do not use illegal substances
- Call Carlos Todd today at 704-804-0841
This list was compiled by Delores Hamilton-Butler and Carlos Todd. They own and operate an Anger Management practice in Charlotte, North Carolina. Visit www.masteringanger.com for details or call 704-804-0841.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina
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Anger management is a very forward focused class that teaches skills in anger management, stress management, communication skills and emotional intelligence. Some still carry the idea that anger management is for the court mandated or those who have been explosive in the recent past. This is simply a misconception.
Anger is a signal, therefore it is important that those who carry hostility or anger work with a professional anger management provider to determine what actions must be taken to respond to the signals instead of lashing out in anger at others. Therefore anger management may be appropriate for any individual or organization where the presenting problem is anger. It may be sign of increasing stress, poor emotional intelligence, poor communication skills or a combination of any or all of those factors. Anger management is therefore appropriate for:
- Couples
- Executives
- Physicians
- Individuals seeking self improvement
- Court mandated
- Those who are being treated by a mental health professionals but need further assistance to manage anger (this treatment must be combined)
- Schools
- Small and large businesses
- Conflict resolution
- Mediation
- Adolescents
- Jails or correctional institutions
- Human resource professionals
- Conduction anger management assessments
Anger management is a class that teaches skills not a mental health intervention. It is my hope that those who struggle with anger or know someone who struggles with anger will not choose to call the anger management provider because they are fearful that they will have to sit with a group of hardened criminals. This is simply not the case. Anger management providers across the country do offer private and group interventions, so rest assured that they will be able to facilitate your needs. Some may even visit your home or office. Visit www.anger-management-resources-org to find a provider in your area.
NB-Please note that anger management is not appropriate for those charged with domestic violence.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina
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Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC
Perception as Deception
Posted on: June 12, 2007
Perception as Deception: How our Perceptions can Lead to Anger.
Emotions are the filters through which humans perceive and experience the world. Information coming in through our senses may not always be perceived correctly and this can lead to distorted emotional responses and consequently expressions of anger.
Let me illustrate with a road rage example. On a few occasions I have been driving and invariably found myself behind someone who is driving very slowly. Depending on the activities of the day I may become angry at the other driver. Along with tailgating I look for the first opportunity to overtake. While overtaking I would look over at the other driver and sometimes I am surprised to see a little old lady who apparently is just trying to get where she needs to go. Somehow my anger always subsides at the sight of the lady. I no longer feel justified in being angry. The slew of negative emotions I had that fuel my anger just seems to disappear and I continue to drive to my destination maybe with a hint of guilt for the way I presented myself and how I treated the other driver.
These situations lead me to question whether our perceptions can be deceptive. I have in other articles described anger as a secondary emotion that is always driven by some set of other emotions. Therefore if one perceives a situation incorrectly our responses can lead to anger outburst that may not be appropriate. How one perceives situations is educated by our experiences, beliefs and the information available. In the illustration I presented with the elderly driver my perception somehow did not include the possibly that the driver may have had some limitation that caused them to move slower. However with new information my perceptions changed and my propensity to angry dissipated.
What does this have to do with anger management? Emotional intelligence is a key factor here. It is important to note that being emotionally intelligent is not only about awareness of our own emotions but being able to dialogue with ourselves in a way that we sometimes question our perception of a situation. It is okay to ask yourself the following questions. Am I perceiving this situation accurately? Do I need more information before I make a judgment? How are my beliefs influencing how I perceive this situation? Initially it will seem very awkward to have such self talk but over time it will become automatic. This level of emotional intelligence can help us cue in to the emotions that drive our anger and overtime reduce the prosperity to lash out in anger because of how we perceive a situation.
Our emotions are signals. It is the responsibility of every individual to master these emotions. We need to have more internal conversation to ensure that our perceptions do not lead us to make the impulsive decision to react in anger. Perceptions can be very deceptive so I encourage us all that before we react in anger to check what drives this anger- you maybe surprises to find like me and the illustration with the elderly driver that your perceptions maybe far from reality.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC
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