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Carlos R. Todd featured in the June 2008 issue of the Time Inc. magazine Real Simple
Posted on: May 19, 2008
As a representation of his growing influence in the world of anger management, Carlos Todd has been featured in the Time Inc. magazine “Real Simple.” Visit http://www.realsimple.com/realsimple/gallery/0,21863,1779636,00.html to read the article titled “16 Ways to Manage Your Anger ” or pick up a copy of Real Simple at a news stand near you.
103 free anger management tips
Posted on: November 30, 2007
- Exercise
- Read a book
- Breathe deeply
- Talk with a friend
- Transferring the situation from negative to positive by self talk
- HALT find out if you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired
- Take a long bubble bath
- Have a sexual encounter to release your endorphins
- Take a walk in the park
- Talk about the issue at hand
- Have a good cry
- Write down the pros and cons about how to deal with the situation
- Walk away
- Go to a 24 hour establishment and sit in the parking lot and review the situation
- Remove yourself from the situation
- Go shopping
- Go out to dinner with friends
- Paint your nails
- Work on a project in your garage
- Spend time with someone that is dear to you
- Do something special for someone else and keep it to yourself
- Use paint to create how you feel on paper
- Clean your home
- Mow your lawn
- Write a story about the situation
- Listen to your favorite song
- Take a long drive through a very scenic area
- Go sit by a body of water and calm down
- Talk about what you are angry about
- Identify other emotions that you are truly feeling
- Ask yourself what is the real reason you are angry
- Go to the spa
- Seek professional help
- Learn to laugh
- Watch a comedy
- Dance
- Go to a night club and have fun
- evaluate all of your current relationships
- evaluate how people in your life addressed anger when you were a child
- Find out what are appropriate and inappropriate ways to express anger
- Play your favorite sport
- Forgive the person you are angry with
- Practice self talk to calm down
- Replay in your head the positive way to deal with the situation in which you are angry
- Prepare one of your favorite meals
- Talk on the phone with someone to help you calm down
- Compose a story regarding the situation and develop two endings one that discusses what happens if you follow thru with your anger and one that explains what happens when you express your anger appropriately
- Find a place that is special to only you and go there to think
- Smile, the more you smile, the more difficult it is to stay angry
- Have a massage in your home
- Scream as loud as you can, then regroup
- Prayer
- Live your dreams
- Count to ten
- Anger is a secondary emotions—always find our what is driving your anger
- Be always aware of your emotional state
- Check your perception of the situation
- Angry thinking creates anger-transform your thoughts
- Anger is a normal emotion-embrace it
- Never follow another driver in anger
- Never listen to your angry self talk
- Be aware of your emotional state
- Take breaks
- Avoid fatigue
- Take responsibility for your own actions
- Avoid the tendency to be always right
- Go for a long drive
- Go for a long walk
- Reduce stress
- Lower your expectations
- Mediate
- Walk away— repeated because this very important but hard to do.
- Avoid excessive use of alcohol
- Talk out your problems
- Be prepared for life’s surprises
- Learn to laugh at yourself
- Go to anger management classes
- Visit www.anger-management-resources.org
- Visit www.masteringanger.com
- Improve your time management
- Avoid people that tend to increase your irritability
- Learn to communicate your needs
- Avoid passive aggressive behavior
- Improve money management
- You never have the right to hit someone—Never
- Get adequate sleep
- Behave at sporting events the same way you want your children to behave
- Stay clear of angry people
- Recognize that what you value or believe others may not
- Don’t procrastinate
- Be organized
- Don’t assume that because you said it other will do it—you are not the center of the universe
- Know your pet peeves
- Be open to the opinions of others
- Avoid excessive overtime
- Visit www.andersonservices.com
- Take time for yourself
- Visit www.ami-tx.com
- Compromise
- Remember that your needs are not always the most important
- Play your favorite sport
- Do not use illegal substances
- Call Carlos Todd today at 704-804-0841
This list was compiled by Delores Hamilton-Butler and Carlos Todd. They own and operate an Anger Management practice in Charlotte, North Carolina. Visit www.masteringanger.com for details or call 704-804-0841.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina
The more I provide anger management services the more I am able to see that anger is only a signal of deeper emotional challenges. Essentially some emotional need goes unmet and anger lurks in the life of the individual only waiting for some trigger to cause cause an explosion. The clients who I see that are committed to anger management over a long time often begin to cue in to their emotional needs an may realize that they are in the wrong career, wrong city, wrong social environment, wrong marriage our even the wrong religion. They realize that their needs for security, love and belongingness, purpose and self-esteem has been starved by their decision to do what others want instead of what they want. All along the emotional signals give them a hint that something in their lives is not fulfilling but they ignore these signals. The result is a hypervigilance, and a defensive posture that is always poised to attack–often on those they love.
The alternative is to take responsibility for their own lives and take action to increase their emotional vocabulary, emotional intelligence and meet the needs that are often associated with anger. Taking this journey can often result not only in reduced anger but a more fulfilling life.
If you suffer with persistent anger it may be a sign that some emotional need has gone unmet. A competent anger management professional can assist in this regard. This process often cannot be completed in group anger management or fast track programs. It requires work over the long term.
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anger Management/Executive Coaching of Charlotte, North Carolina
Todd’s Anger Management Solutions have launched four new videos for executive coaching, mandated anger management, couples anger management and organizational training. This move is designed to provide our clients with a quick way to learn more about our anger management classes. Click here to view
Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions in Charlotte, NC
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